The "Real" You vs. The Created You

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00:00:05 --> 00:00:21 Speaker B: You're listening to casual talk radio where common sense is still the norm whether you're a new or long time listener. We appreciate you joining us today. Visit us@casualtalkradio.net and now here's your host, Ler.

00:00:21 --> 00:01:38 Snow and Ice reign supreme. The snow is mostly off the ground, but there is still remnants of what was. It's cold. We did not really have a fall. We had fall, but not officially. You know you're taught in school, right, that three months of spring, three months of summer, three months of fall, three months of winter. That's not how it works. Where I'm at, where I'm at, spring is probably about one month long, fall is probably about one month long and then winter's five easy. Summer fluctuates, but yeah, I can say probably about five in the way that things feel. Then you have things like humidity, you have rain, barometric pressure. And the one thing that surprised me that you again, this is stuff you're not taught in school out here compared to other places I've been. So just to rattle down the entire list of where I've been. Okay.

00:01:38 --> 00:02:22 Where, let me clarify where I've been, where I was old enough to recall. Okay, so from the top, Texas. Yes, I remember this. Oklahoma, somewhat, but I'll put it there. Missouri, Yes, I can remember that. Arkansas. Yes, I can clearly remember that. Horrible place, absolutely. California, both southern and Northern because I do treat them as two different things. Although it's one state I have been in both some may not know and even Central. I'll count central as another place too because they, from a weather perspective, they are markedly different.

00:02:22 --> 00:02:27 Oregon, Washington state.

00:02:27 --> 00:02:33 Colorado, Wyoming, North Dakota.

00:02:33 --> 00:02:36 Nevada.

00:02:36 --> 00:03:08 A slight bit of Utah, specifically Snowville, if you know the terrain. Snowville, Utah, New Mexico, I don't can't tell you what city because I was just going through it and I had a brief stop, but I don't, I didn't stay very long. But New Mexico, Yuma, Arizona. Yes. Danbury, Connecticut, Boston, I'm thinking Lake Mary. Florida. Yes.

00:03:08 --> 00:03:21 Let's see. St. Paul, Minnesota, pretty sure was St. Paul. I can't recall if it was Minneapolis or St. Paul. Pretty sure it was St. Paul. St. Paul, Minnesota, because I flew in there.

00:03:21 --> 00:03:26 What else is there anywhere else did I ever go? New York.

00:03:26 --> 00:03:31 I don't remember what part, but New York I remember I did go there.

00:03:31 --> 00:03:44 Ohio, Dayton, Ohio, Cleveland, Ohio, I think that's just, I think that's it. Let's see. Oh, I did say Oklahoma. Yep.

00:03:44 --> 00:03:50 Multiple parts in Oklahoma, by the way. Because I had a client down there as well.

00:03:50 --> 00:03:59 I think. Yeah. And Green Bay. Green Bay, Wisconsin. So that's of what I can recall of what I can mentally recall.

00:03:59 --> 00:05:04 That's about the broad spectrum of places I've been. Of all those places, I didn't ever have to care as much about the variety of weather as I do where I'm at. So like Southern California, the most we'd have to think about was heat. I would say dryness. And dryness was not something that was really disgust, but the. I felt it physically. I just didn't know what it was because nobody told me. But dryness of air was really bad down there. It was really bad. Oregon rain. That's the rain and wind. Those two. Rain and wind. Those were the. The. That's what on the mind. Bend, Oregon was nice. I'm talking like Salem, closer to the coast side. Just rain and wind. And it was really bad. I was driving. This was when I was moving out of Oregon to head to Nevada. And I had taken.

00:05:04 --> 00:05:34 Let's see, what was the order of operations. I was flying out, actually, I was flying out, or supposed to. So the plan, which was a faulty plan, I had done this twice. I did it in Washington, did in Oregon, and it was a faulty plan both times. And I really didn't need to do it in Oregon. Wash2 is a different problem. But in Oregon, the plan was to do this over a weekend. The plan was to fly in there, load all my stuff into a UPAC.

00:05:34 --> 00:06:14 Truck or trailer box, and then fly back. I got the trailer loaded. I got everything down to the. The place down there. But by the time I got everything sorted out, it was like three, you know, 10 to 30 minutes before the plane was going to take off. There was no way I was going to make. I'm nowhere near the airport, mind you. No way I'm going to make it. So I had to stay overnight in a hotel. I still have photos of this hotel. Was it actually nice? It was a nice room. It had a accessible bathroom. So it was like one of those large bathrooms for like wheelchairs. But it was all they had left that they gave me.

00:06:14 --> 00:16:20 Then I flew out the next morning. So I get out, finally get out of there. Because Oregon was terrible. But when I was driving this whole time, rain, just rain and wind, endless rain. And wind is coming, pouring, pouring, pouring. Horrible, horrible, horrible. And Oregon had times where it would be freezing cold, but more times that it was sweltering hot. No air conditioner in the unit. Very few places had air conditioning. I talked to people. Now you don't need air conditioning. Just this bizarre mentality. Just like Washington state. You don't need air condition. That was so they're not even caring about the fact it's sweltering hot in these places. Washington State was sweltering hot at places. Oregon was sweltering hot at places. Southern California was sweltering hot. Central was kind of sort of, sometimes. But that's because it's a concrete jungle. Northern California, freezing freaking cold. Ice, snow, you name it. Freezing cold. Nevada, it's a desert. We understand what it was the first year I was there. Snow and ice. I actually almost, I almost hurt myself really badly slipping on the, on the ice, on the sidewalk. And of course, the property company. Who's a piece of garbage. First Key Homes. Yes. I'm going to call them up by name. They're a piece of garbage scam outfit. If you ever are trying to rent something, house or apartment or otherwise, and it says First Key Homes run far away from them, they're scam artists. It's a franchise op. So they have local installs for this. But. But what they do is that some properties are managed by one out of state. So you can't just go there, get stuff resolved. You got to contact them or eat or mail them or something to be able to interact with them. And they will scam you to the nth. They won't do inspections before you move in. They'll take photos, but then they'll mysteriously miss the photos. And then when you leave, they'll try to nail you with a bunch of scam stuff like they're trying to be slick. First Key Homes is a joke. I, I digress. The point is that all of these different places that I've been, I never had to care about all the different variety of weather condition things that I need to do now. So I bought a steam humidifier about a month ago. Ish. Now maybe a couple weeks. 18th. Yes, couple weeks. So the 18th had that installed. And don't get me wrong, I love the darn thing. He keeps the humidity exactly where I need it to be in this place because I do need to have reasonable strength and humidity because. For respiratory reasons, but also because there's wood and it's, it's. If you have hardwood in your place, you're supposed to have good humidity. It was clear when I bought the place that they had no concept of managing humidity. There was no such humidifier. They didn't care about it. The dehumidifier that was in the basement didn't work. They just didn't understand it. So I get this dehumidifier get set up. I replaced the furnace. It was a single stage insufficient for the house. I mean, it's. It's like the largest house in the place in this region. Everybody looks at my place because it's the largest house out here. And it has a single stage that couldn't keep up. The ducts and the supplies are in the wrong place. I remember my uncle's house. He's down in Arkansas. I remember how his floor ducts used to be. And that's what I expected when I came here. My floor ducts are nowhere near like his. I can't remember on the top where his returns were. I think they were in the hallway because I remember hearing them, but I don't remember looking actively for them. But the supplied vents, because it would get really hot in the summer. So we would hang out near the supply vents because it was arctic. They ran them arctic cold almost all the time. But theirs were nice flush. They were away from the wall a little bit. And they were just really nice here. No, not even close. So I had to do a lot of work. The reason I'm telling the story is I had to do a lot of work to get this all situated because of comfort. Then the steam humidifier. He's an energy hog. I had to fix the air conditioner. It was dead when I got here. Had to replace it. Six grand for that dude. He's a nice unit, but six grand for that dude. All of this I'm putting together, then I get the electric bill. Okay. One month it was $400. If you're cringing, you should. Because I didn't expect a $400 electric bill. Now let's just be clear. This was not just electric. There was a little bit of gas in there, but the vast majority was electric. When I saw that, it told me they rip you off with the gap with the electric rates out here. So I set up stored energy because of the clean energy credit stuff that's going on. So I set up stored energy and I've been working on stored energy. And I have a footprint now where essentially my whole house runs on off peak pricing, meaning that it's a third of what it would normally be if I were not on this. And I've got backup. But there's a major storm or some sort of disruption. I can run pretty much the whole house without having to worry. In the event of an outage, my house would be the Only one with any lighting. Even the commercials don't have backups. They don't have generators or anything. So I'm actually looking forward to the very first time we have an extended outage. So I can just see that picture, you know, they show on the marketing where there's one house and it's got all this perfect lighting going on and everything else is dim, dark. I'm waiting for that so I can see it and I can take a picture of it. In any event, I invested a lot of money into the backup power because I didn't want to have a significant bill due to the stuff I have to do that the prior owners didn't take care of. Then next year, sometime I've got to get the rest of the window swapped out. Once I get all that done, the house, I'll start to actually enjoy it. I still have things like wall coverings. I got to deal with the. Those stupid hooks in the ceiling thing I had to remove. I got to get that patched up and flooring needs to be replaced and then the stairs. Once I do all those things and I finish my outdoor, like the wall I want to build and everything else, I guarantee you this is going to be one of the most amazing houses probably in the state at this point. I've done a lot, mostly because I needed to be comfortable and I knew my client kind of relies on me, and I was trying to get ahead of what I thought might happen. The leadership out here right now, I think leans Democrat. I believe that's true, but is planning to lean Republican because the Democrats gonna be leaving office here soon. And so my concern was, well, the Republican might come in and have different ideas about how to do stuff. So let me see if I can get ahead of it then. The Trump administration, they passed the one big beautiful bill, which of course got rid of the clean energy credits for stuff that is installed or purchased, you know, after 2025, December 31st. So I'm trying to get as much as I can between the furnace, the air conditioner, all the stored energy, as much efficiency, credit eligible things, and even my windows, the door, all of these are credit, you know, things that are eligible for these things, I believe to try to get ahead of it. Unfortunately, it put up, I don't want to say a strain, but it really bothered me having to do it with this rush. But I. I knew that I wasn't going to have a lot of time. I also had a theory. Okay, I'm not sure I'm going to actually be here for the long haul? I'm not sure. You might ask, well, why'd you buy? I bought because the rental market out here sucks. They openly discriminate against people out here on the rental side. So I figured I got to do something. I'm not going to be able to rent. That's not going to work. Same issue I was having in Washington state. Same issue I was having in Oregon. Nevada wasn't as bad, but these other places are just garbage. The rental market is garbage. It's different than what it used to be. So I had to. I had to do something to get where I needed to be to have the stuff I needed to get situated, Try to get all my stuff that was in storage, collate it together, kind of sift through it, clean, clean it up a little bit, and then do, you know, buy the house, pay it down, figure out what my next game plan is going to be and where I'm going to go. Have the conversation with my client. If I don't want to be here, which I really don't, but if it turns out I need to stay for a while, at least I need to be comfortable in the house I did buy. That was kind of the thought. Whether it was a mistake or not, I don't think so. I don't regret buying a house. I didn't regret buying the house in Washington. I regret buying that house. I didn't regret buying a house. I don't regret buying this house. I wish I weren't forced to do it by way of discrimination in the rental market. But I don't regret buying the house. I wish the former owner had taken better care of it. But I don't regret buying the house. So I'm kind of playing it by ear now. All of this has to have an end game, right? There has to be some logical reason for this motivation. Something has to be driving this forward. I can't really describe it in any better way other than the idea that right now I would consider my prime gone. Meaning that I'm on the decline side. There's no longer peak. I think my peak was in my 30s. It feels like I'm in decline. There are things that are easier, there are things that are clearer. There are things that are more logical. There's communication and the work I do and meetings and, you know, navigation and charm and all these. That's easy. I'm saying that I'm nowhere near what I was in my peak.

00:16:20 --> 00:22:07 That realization told me, let's assume. And it's only an assumption. Let's Assume I got a finite period of time remaining. I need to maximize that time best I can and get to a point where I can pay it forward. There's a lot to pay it forward that I won't talk about in this episode. Suffice to say, I have to do something for somebody. So I said, let's start here. My clients got. They need me now, okay? So let me do everything I can for them. There's a lot to that, and I accept the challenge because it's a challenge. It's is. I'm more challenged than I ever have been. And it makes me. There are things I'm learning, even that I didn't expect to learn now, that I just didn't. I didn't know ABC and I use that as fuel. The fuel creates the driver that we were talking about. That's what drives me, is something is fueling the fire to keep going forward. It is. I'm giving a service to the client. They appreciate that service. They're asking more of me, and I have to adjust, and I have to adapt, and I got to stay up with it while accepting, okay, I can't burn myself out, which I don't think I will. It's certainly not to the terrible degree that it was in 2020, 2014 and 2015. That was probably the worst of it with respect to burnout. 2014 and 2015. I would say 2014. To a greater degree. That period of time is what told me there will. I will not be stepping foot on a plane ever again. That. That's not going to happen. I don't care what happens. I am not getting. Let me clarify. I'm not stepping anywhere near an airport unless I'm picking up, you know, like, say, my friend's sister wants to come see me. I would go meet her at the airport. Obviously, I'm talking about for me to get on a plane. That's not gonna happen. It's just not gonna happen. By the way, I don't know if you've noticed, but people have been given grief about this real ID for years. They've been telling you it's mandatory to get on a plane, it's mandatory to fly. You're not gonna be able to fly if you don't get this thing or passport. Passport, of course, only applies if you travel internationally. So most Americans don't have one because they don't travel internationally. So they say the real ID is mandatory. I had a real id. Here's how stupid this is. I had a real ID when I Went to Nevada, I did not have a real ID in Oregon. Pretty sure that's true. And I know I didn't have one in Washington. And the reason you could tell the difference is that the non real ID is better looking than the real id. So I know for a fact Washington, I did not have a real id. And I know for a fact in Oregon I did not have a real id. And I know for a fact in Nevada I did have a real id. The stupidity of the real ID is that if you go to a different state, you're supposed to be able to swap and just get a new license, no fuss, no muss. That's how it's supposed to work. However, that doesn't directly work for the real id. You have to reproduce, as in reprovide, all of the documentation that they require for this. So it's like maybe you got born again. So we need to see your birth certificate again that we've already vetted because you already have a real id. Instead of saying, okay, this state already vetted, you will automatically connect to their system, collect all the data, auto approve it and just issue the card. They don't do that. They force you to fill out the app, they force you to go through the rigmarole to reprove all the stuff that you've already proven. That's my beef with the real id. It's having to do all the crap all over again. It's stupid. So this time I did not do a real ID because I knew I wasn't going to get on a almost sore on a plane again. So I said I'm not doing a real ID knowing, hey, if, okay, if I'm banned from planes, that's cool, ban me from the plane, that's fine. I'll take the train. I'm cool with it. I just noticed they sent out a broadcast that said, all right, fine, if you don't want the real ID and you don't have a passport, you pay us 45 bucks and we'll will screen you through. So the whole mandatory was just fear. It was fud. It was just pressure, needless pressure for them to jump on the bandwagon because mind you, the real ID requires you jump through more hoops. So they want you to jump through more hoops and they didn't really need it all along. It's a scam. This is how I'm feeling. It's a scam. It's a joke. Anyway, so yes, the real ID, you don't have to have it. You can pay 45 bucks and go through a screening and not have to deal with it. Or you could do passport if you already have a real id. Fine. Great. You might think it's no big deal. My beef, once again, for those people that don't go to a different state, like I had to do a lot you don't understand. You will. The moment you move to another state, you'll see it's not as simple as just. Just give you another card in the other state. It's not that simple. Especially because I think it was Oregon even forced me to go through the driving or not the driving, but the written test. Again, it's just stupid nonsense. Inconsistent state by state. I digress. I'm gonna close out by sharing a snippet of something I thought was really good. I don't want you to. You're going to. But I don't want you to laugh at the source of this information. Simply focus on the message. This is coming from Will Smith. This is an older audio clip. This is from the promotional tour, I think, leading up to Bad Boys 3, I believe it is. But he said something that I wanted to share thoughts on because it's very close to something I said many years ago. Here we go.

00:22:07 --> 00:23:10 Speaker C: I painted myself into a corner with Will Smith, right? And I realized that, you know, we have our childhood traumas and we have our experiences, and then we all create these characters that are gonna be our characters that defend us in the world. Ooh, there's certain things we can't do. There's certain things we can't say. Certain ways we re people do something and we create a character that we go out into the world with. Then that character wins some things for us. It was like, oh, we succeed by behaving this way, then what happens? You get to a point where it stops working as well. And the reason that it stops working is cause it's not true, really. It's not really who you are. And then you get backed into a corner. It stops working. Now the question is, are you gonna be corre. And are you going to be brave enough to kill essentially the character that you've created? And are you going to have the courage to live as who you really are?

00:23:10 --> 00:27:00 Now, once again, ignore the fact that it's coming from Will Smith. Ignore the fact that he's probably not being true to himself and what we theorize is his true sexual orientation. Ignore the fact that he's got issues with Jada and issues with brother Bilal. Ignore all these other things. The smoke that's around the man. He makes a very strong point. I classified it differently than he did, though. He considers it basically a character that you create, Meaning there's a conscious effort to do so. Driven from past trauma and past experiences in my mind, I don't believe it's a character that is created, driven off of anything. I believe it's your toll to do these things. I believe it's something that is imposed upon you and you either accept it or you don't. And if you don't, you recognize that opportunities are lost, so then you just. You begrudgingly adopt it and then it does become that character. This is true. But I don't believe it's a conscious. Hey, this is a traumatic something that created the. The facade as. As it were, a mask. I don't believe it's that. I believe it's. You are told that you have to do these things. What's a good example? While in the workplace or take the job interview? Even before you get to the workplace, what are you told about the job interview? You're told you don't. You shouldn't have to tell the whole truth. You don't tell the whole truth. And you have to answer a certain way, right? And you have to present yourself a certain way. And there's certain things you should not say, and there's certain things you should not wear, despite them being your person, because you understand that certain behaviors and certain styles of dress are likely not to get you a job. You're told this from scratch on the resume. Number one, you're told you should have a resume. Many people don't understand how to write a resume properly. There was a time I would write the resume a very specific way and I was told it was wrong. Not that it was incorrect in what it said, but simply that it was not going to get me a job. I understood what they were saying, but I did not want to misrepresent the true experience. At the time, I didn't have any. So I wanted to tell the truth. I don't have experience. What do you expect? If you're telling me I have to have a resume, yet I don't have to have. I don't have any work experience. What do you want me to do? So we put stuff on there, like references and recommendations from friends and family members and that sort of stuff. And it worked for that very first job. Now, unfortunately, that first job was garbage because they were just desperate for somebody and nobody else wanted to do the work. The point is that we see this all the Time meetings. When you're at work, there's a certain meeting etiquettes, what they call it, they do not want you to be yourself in the meeting. They want you to act a certain way while in the meeting. I think everybody who I've worked with from the last, say, 20 years forward would tell you that I'm just who I am. And there's going to be quite a few of those people who would straight tell you, yeah, he was a handful, he was this, he was that, he was whatever. But nobody can say I was inconsistent in the presentation. That's just how I was. Because I didn't feel. I got to a point where I didn't feel any value in behaving a different way than the norm. Now, that did not mean that I was not at some level filtering because I had to. The director I talked about, there was no way I was going to speak to her the way I would speak to my friends, right? Or somebody, even my co workers. I would speak to the co workers. There was a young lady, her name's Danny Staley, and she was a aspiring singer. I don't think she ever got there, but she was an aspiring singer, very nice person. I would speak to her completely different than I would speak to the leadership there. Because that's just the kind of relationship that we had when I went to work for Sharp, Sharp Electronics for why ever this is the case. I can't explain it. It's been the case, I think, geez, as far back as 898.

00:27:00 --> 00:27:22 There was. There is a certain magnetism I had in my youth where the young ladies would take to me not in a romantic, at least not from my side romantic situation. But there was an attraction, right? Just a general magnetism that I drew them. So I'm talking to them. I'm myself, I'm just doing my own thing.

00:27:22 --> 00:32:44 But what I'm saying is that that behavior in the workplace had to be different than the behavior outside of it because you understood that you weren't going to get far if you took your outside Persona and put them there. Now, if I were to talk to certain people that were outside of those workplaces, they would say, I don't see any difference between. I don't see any difference between the way you act here versus the way you act there. That's because I've done a very good job of blurring the line between the two because I understood where I was being negatively influenced, where I was being coerced to behave a certain way, that was not me. This started, though, all the way back to the teen years, because you're told a lot of different things that you then either accept as must be the truth. Religions, great example. Certain people just go to church. They go to church, but they're not really religious. They go because they feel compelled. They're. They're trying to please their significant other. They're trying to please parents. They're trying to. They're just going because their friends took them or something else. That doesn't mean that you are religious. You might have faith, but perhaps that's not the faith for you. And if you don't explore the other ones, you're putting on a facade. It's not really you. It's not really what you believe. It's not really what you support. If you're the kind of person that believes in sex before marriage and you purposely withhold it because you meet somebody who doesn't, you're putting on a facade. You're doing that because you don't want to offend them or piss them off or anger them or upset them. But it's not really you. What you believe is what you believe. I'll close by tying the bow here. One thing I had to accept about myself that was difficult for me to wrap my head around, why this was the case. I knew that ultimately, the women I did date, which there were quite a few of them, but the women I did date, there was something I was looking for, something specific I was looking for. And I knew I wasn't going to change 99% of who I was for anybody because I felt there was. There should not be a change. I didn't want them to change for me. Barry White. Right. And I wasn't going to change for them. Now what have I done? I've limited the pool. I've constrained it to a. To pretty much one person, if you think about it, that I likely would never meet. And I had to accept that because it's. It's not fair for me to ask them to change, but I'm not going to change for them. That means I have to mystically find that person who's already in line. This. That's why there's so many divorces on the celeb side. That's why there's so many single mothers out there. That's why all that turmoil happens. You go in, either you're expected to change or you want them to change for you. It's the wrong answer, but it's the only. If you're that desperate to be with somebody, it's like your only reality, but it's fake. It's not real. Like Will saying it's fake. You might. You get in there thinking that you'll be the perfect whatever or that they'll be the perfect whatever, but it's not real. It's fabricated. You. You worked to try to make it work. You hear that term all the time in marriages. We got to make it work. And usually children become scapegoats in that somebody gets pregnant, and then all of a sudden there's kind of this obligation to make it work. It's fake. It's a facade, because at that point, it's no longer between you guys at all. It is kind of an obligation rather than something that is accepted. I like what Will said, but I don't agree with the idea that it's a conscious choice necessarily. I agree. I think it's really more about out of necessity. There's a facade put up out of necessity. Once you recognize that facade for what it is, you decide whether it continues or not. I like to refer to it as meeting yourself, meeting the real yourself. Because until you meet that person, meaning fully understand and accept it, embrace it for what it is, good and bad, how can you say. How can you recognize that it really is a facade versus the true you? You can. Can't recognize it because you haven't met yourself yet. You haven't met yourself. How do you know what's real? You don't. Somebody that says that they are happy, content, but can't tell you really why. Somebody that says that they're depressed but can't explain it. Somebody that says that they love their job, but there's a but always with it. You have met yourself, and you got to meet yourself to understand what's real. Then you simply decide, is that what you want or is it not what you want? And if it is what you want, are you kosher with the idea that somebody else might not want it? Are you kosher with the idea that it might cost you jobs? Are you solid on a foundation for your own future with whatever it is that you decided?

00:32:44 --> 00:33:03 I'm doing that this way because I'm trying to explain how easy and how hard it is for. To achieve what Will is ultimately getting at. He's getting at. And I agree with at least this part.

00:33:03 --> 00:33:16 If something that you're doing has been successful for you, it's gotten you places, it's made you get to a point, but you understand that it was not you. You had to fake something to make that happen?

00:33:16 --> 00:33:32 He's implying the idea of why can you not be successful with the real you? What is it about the real you that limits the success or just less success than the opposite?

00:33:32 --> 00:33:35 My current.

00:33:35 --> 00:34:45 Is a great example for me because I'm true to who I am. I have, I have walked away from companies. I've straight told them, you will fix that or I'm out of here. And then they don't fix it. I give notice and they pretend to be shocked. That's happened three times. Because they expect you to be lying to them. They expect you to be fake about it. I'm not. I'm straight up. I know you need me. I have the power, not you. And I will let you know that. I will let you know how it works. I told stories in my earlier episodes about my current client and some of the turmoil we had with some of the people that were there. I stayed true to who I was and I told management. It's like, this is who I am, okay? I have done nothing wrong and I'm trying to help here. I've got more experience than all of you put together. That's a factual statement. I'm not unapologetic about this. That's, that's what it is. I, I, it's what it is. So let's move past your feelings, okay, together and focus on what matters, which is the work. I'm not here to be your friend. I'm here to get work done.

00:34:45 --> 00:36:50 I'm going to do the best I can to help anybody else get to my level. But right now they're not. Okay? Just accept that and use my skill to get us to a point until you get the right people in here so that at some point I can walk away in good shape. Everything I just said is perceived in the modern era as braggadocious or arrogant. It's, it's only arrogant when you cannot back it up. It. That's the truth. It's only arrogant. That's, that's what I had to the light switch. It's only arrogant when you cannot back it up. When you have no track record, you have no proof of anything. That's when it's true arrogance. If you're just stating something that is provable fact observed by the opposite, it cannot be arrogance. You're telling the truth. Modern wants you to be soft about it. Soft doesn't get stuff done. What's the ramification of that if we don't? The O rings. I had a friend who talked about O rings on the shuttle right Bad O rings are what caused the shuttle to explode. So if we just say, well, you know, I think we should really, nobody's gonna listen. They're gonna laugh you off. They're not gonna admit. But if you say, fix the freaking O rings, they're jacked up and all they do is get offended. No problem. You step back and say, I put my piece out there, let's see what happens. Shuttle blows up. Those leaders who ignored that person, you step to them and you say, what do you have to say? You need to give my credit. I told you about this and you did nothing. Now what are we going to do about it? Tom Holman, for everything that you feel about the man, he's always been, that he's always been, from the moment he was up in there in front of Congress talking about, I'm a taxpayer, you work for me only to now he's in charge of this stuff, now he's the boss. That straight talking, that delivery, that is exactly what.

00:36:50 --> 00:37:32 Will is talking about. That he lacked for the longest time, that many people don't do is they create the facade that, that suppresses what you really feel and what you really think. Because you're using, you're trying to get ahead, you're trying to maintain success and keep it going. And you know that there's some soft balls out there and you know they can't handle the hard truth. And you know they don't like being spoke to that way. And so you're trying to preserve their feelings because you're trying to preserve your job and you're trying to keep your position intact. Understood? His point that I agree with.

00:37:32 --> 00:38:15 Now you're going to hit a point where that no longer works. Now, if you think of the pandemic, what did that get us? Nothing. What did being passive get us? A president who threatened everybody. That's what it got us. Everybody being soft, what did it get you? Nothing. At the end of the day, we have to realize you can keep putting the facade up, but at some point it's not going to work. And if, when you hit that, what do you have to fall back on? Nothing. It has to move forward. It has to be strong. It has to be clear, adamant, right to the down points of what needs to happen. If you don't.

00:38:15 --> 00:40:25 All you are is just stuck in your own myth and your own dream, not moving forward and not happy, not really happy. People think I'm not happy. The last thing in this world for me that I would ever describe myself as unhappy. That's the Last thing I would describe. Am I satisfied? No. But I never will be. That's because it's. It's lofty. I'm old and it took me longer than I hoped to start making progress. It took way longer. Unfortunately, there are people I care about who went through rough stuff that bothers me because I could not be there to help them in their time of need because I didn't know they had those needs. I can't regret it. It's already happened. But my point is that I can never be where I want to be. And it took too long to start progress towards it. And people only have so much time and you never know how much you do have. So I can never be really satisfied. But unhappy? Absolutely not. Absolutely not. There's nothing wrong with being dissatisfied with your current level. The key is to make sure you understand why you're dissatisfied and be content with the progress towards satisfaction as well as accept the truth that you might not reach it as long as you're working towards it. And that becomes your driver and that becomes your motivation and that becomes your fire. As long as you identify it and as long as you keep forward with it, you don't let anybody stop you from continuing. How can that be a bad thing and how can that be a negative and how can that be wrong?